Money and Relationships

Have you ever wondered at the power of money? I have and I came to realize that money is such a strong factor in life that it generally controls everything. It controls the way we run our lives and most definitely it controls the people we love. Most people would rather be in a love less relationship than be in a love relationship that lacks financial backing. No one likes to worry about what they will eat or how they are going to complete their mortgage fee. It is a no wonder therefor that thousands of couples fight over money daily. Sometimes I think if money was not introduced to this world, we would all be living happily. There is no separating money and relationships. However, when you are in a relationship, you should not let money control you. Make sure you and your partner have a general agreement about money, this way, you will prevent any ugly confrontations arising in future.

The men and women have their own problem with money. The ladies would like to believe that the men over use money and sometimes waste it in pointless drinking. The men on the other hand tend to think that the women spend a lot of money on pointless shopping on new cloths, makeup and new appliances. Men and women have their own problem and until they both realize they have a problem, a relationship might not work. Sometimes the best way of dealing with the problem of money and relationship is to have a spending limit per day. This way, there is not person who will spend more than is acceptable. This way the number of times people in relationships would fight about money would be few.

Sometimes couples agree to open one account where they can both manage their finances. Although this is a great idea, complications arises when you can no longer live together. Even if you open an account with your partner, make sure you have an account of your own that you have a way in. An account where you get to decide the amount which you can withdraw and how much you can use. This way, you will not feel like your wings are clipped in a relationship. Money and relationship are funny, just when you think you have got the idea your partner might decide to leave.

However, if you feel money is such a great issue in your relationship, you should go find help. Get help from a financial advisor. If the problem is with your partner and they are spending too much in buying something you should also get financial help. Attend some of the sessions with your partner to show him or her that you support them and you want them to recover from their money problem. Lastly, if you want your relationship to work you should never let money control what you do. Money is always going to be there and as long as it is there, the problems associated with them will not go away. All we need to do is to be people who can manage money and relationships.

Women And Alcohol, The Wrong Kind Of Fun

Many dates have turned to be a nightmare for many women due to excessive consumption of alcohol. Men may use alcohol as a ‘date rape’ drug to exploit women. Women and alcohol are inseparable since women are more prone to alcohol addiction. Once a woman gets used to the “high-feeling” of a beer, she wants to be in that excited state all the time so they end up drinking too much too often. Young women are more vulnerable since they are preyed by most men. Alcohol increases their chances of being raped or being sexually assaulted. Women who are more likely to be attacked are the ones who have exceeded the drinking threshold by far. Many people have the opinion that men use other drugs to assault women sexually but in many cases alcohol is the solo ‘date-rape’ drug.

The association between women and alcohol is real. This is because alcohol is confirmed to be a major contributor to women’s vulnerability to sexual abuse and acquaintance rape in social situations. Other drugs are also used to spike drinks but their contribution to sexual assault is comparatively minimal. In some cases the recreational drugs found in drinks are consumed at will. Women’s binge drinking put them in an excited state of mind and their valid consent to engage in sex is questionable. The capacity to give a well informed consent at these sky rocketing levels of alcohol consumption cannot be trusted. Alcohol impairs the thinking capacity of a woman and she can agree to anything unconsciously. Many women wake up to witness horrifying news of the night before. Alcohol loosens a woman’s morals and demotes her level of integrity. Personal values are highly interfered with.

In many cases of alleged sexual assault alcohol is mostly involved. Matters are worsened by the fact that many people have a perception of alcohol as an aphrodisiac. There is an intimate relationship between sex, women and alcohol in our society. Alcohol is perceived to be courage in a bottle or as many people put it “liquid courage.” No wonder men who are out to have sex with new partners always prefer meeting the new catch in a boozing joint. Much as alcohol puts people in a loosened, relaxed mood to ‘have fun’, it has a negative and complicated sexual consequences. To avoid being a victim to rape or any sexual assault, avoid mixing different alcoholic drinks in a single sitting. Take one type of a drink at a time and save others for another day. Another big contribution to vulnerability is tendency to mix substances such as recreational and medication drugs with alcohol. This should be avoided.

Much of the research carried out on the effects of alcohol tend to lean more on physiological rather than social aspects. This has played a major role in the existing poor awareness of long term social sexual effects in our culture. Women who are married to alcohol are observed to have major difficulties maintaining a long term and serious relationships. They are mostly depressed and live in social isolation when they are not drinking. When trying to understand the relationship between women and alcohol, do not generalize the study because the sexual effect of alcohol on women is different from its sexual effects on men. Expectancy sexual effects of alcohol lead to the aroused behavior in most cases. Physical effects are present since the person taking alcohol anticipated them. You can still have the same results of excitement if you learn some self improvement skills.

Women Leave Relationships For The Very Same Reason

You find yourself single again or dating someone new. The only problem is you can not get your ex out of your head. How to get him back consumes your every waking thought. You don’t even know if it is a possible. This article will assist you in the process of getting your ex to fall in love with you again. Relationships can be difficult to figure out even when the couples seemingly never seem to disagree. We all realize men and women are vastly different and not being aware of those nuances can often cause breakups where they really did not have to occur.

What could be some of the possible reasons why your ex stopped loving you? The most common reason men decide to leave relationships is that they no longer feel respected. If he did not feel loved and appreciated by you then he knows there are plenty of other women who would be willing to step into your stilettos without a blink of an eye. Hopefully you were not the sort of partner who was never pleased or gave off the vibe that nothing he did was right.

Come to think of it many women leave relationships for the very same reason. What is the most common refrain? “No matter what I did it was not good enough and he did not appreciate me!” When either partner does not feel loved or appreciated then the tendency to seek it elsewhere is the first instinct.

Perhaps your ex called things off because you never made time for them. Chances are now that you two are no longer together. You have done much soul searching in an attempt to figure things out. Try not to focus only on the negative aspects of what this breakup means but also realize the positive. During the separation try to take care of yourself by incorporating healthy habits of eating and sleeping and allowing your friends and family to offer a shoulder to cry on.

When ready, figure out the best approach to getting your ex to meet with you in a neutral location. Suggest an informal location such as a coffee house or a mutual friend’s home. Don’t look at it as a date but a chance to clear the air and ascertain if there is any hope for reconciliation. You will probably find that your ex had been conducting some soul searching as well.

If you present yourself in calm non-threatening manner chances are he will be willing to consider the possibility of reconnecting with you. You will never know if you can get your ex to love you again if you don’t go out on a limb and try. If all goes well then you will be able to happily proclaim that you were able to get your ex to love you again and if not as least you will not have any regrets.

The Surprising Impact Of Viagra On Love And Relationships

In 1998, Viagra was first introduced to the world, and it is fair to say
that the world has not been the same since. The impact of this
medication has been enormous, not just in the narrow area of treating
erectile dysfunction (ED) for which it was approved, but also in
the way we think of sex and sexuality, and even in the realm of
relationships between men and women.

Millions of men in the United States have tried Pfizer’s wonder
drug, sildenafil, better known as Viagra, and there are thus millions
of women who have also seen its effects on their husbands,
boyfriends, and lovers. Many other millions of men and women
wonder about whether Viagra can offer a solution for their own
sexual and emotional problems or for the problems of their partners.
We human beings are sexual animals, after all. And unfortunately,
our sex lives are not always the way we want them to be. So
it’s no surprise that when sex goes sour, relationships suffer in other
ways as well.

Everyone wants to know about Viagra, and many are interested
in trying it, whether or not they think they have an erection problem.
There are always a good number of Viagra questions, such
as, “What happens when a young, healthy man with normal sexual
function takes Viagra?” Or “Can a woman tell during sex that her
partner has taken Viagra?” Or “Is it true that Viagra increases a
man’s sex drive?”

Viagra quickly tapped into a set of wishful fantasies that mirrored
our culture’s hunger for certainty and the quick fix. Supported
by stories that described elderly men restored to such sexual vitality
by Viagra that they abandoned their wives in favor of younger
women, a conventional wisdom arose that Viagra was a fountain of
youth, a sure cure, the real deal. Baby boomers could now look forward
to fabulous sex well into their nineties. Men shared Viagra
stories with each other at cocktail parties or around the office water

“All we can say is ‘Wow!'” says one man, and other men listening
in wonder how their lives might be different if they also took
the magic blue pill.

Women too have been targeted to confirm Viagra’s ability to
create satisfaction and serenity within a relationship where frustration
and friction had once been the rule. One of the most successful
early Pfizer ads showed a series of couples happily dancing
together after Viagra apparently cured the loss of rhythm in their

Viagra jokes became a staple of comedy acts on late-night television (Have you
heard the one about the man who swallowed Viagra, but it stuck in
his throat? He wound up with a very stiff neck!), thus ensuring its
place in our cultural lexicon. Viagra tapped into both our fantasies
and our embarrassment about sexuality in a way that no other drug
had ever done. When, for example, was the last time you heard a
joke about a new cholesterol-lowering medication?

Skillful marketing contributed to our perception of Viagra as
the pill that put the “man” in “manly.” Star professional athletes-vigorous
men such as baseball’s Most Valuable Player Rafael
Palmeiro of the Texas Rangers and NASCAR driver Mark
Martin-endorse the medication in widely seen advertisements.
Other kinds of athletes use Viagra as well. Hugh Hefner, the aging
head of the Playboy empire who is known for his bevy of beautiful
blondes, gives Viagra credit for maintaining his pleasure quotient.
Rumor has it that he provides bowls of Viagra tablets at his famous

Yes, the drug is enormously powerful, and it can be a lifesaver
for many men, but it has also turned a bright spotlight on previously
hidden areas of sexuality and relationships. In particular, it
forces couples to decide what is real in their relationships and what
is not. I have come to see Viagra as providing a window into the
psyche of men, and perhaps indirectly into the psyche of women as
well, since women are not immune from unduly high expectations
regarding the benefits of Viagra and its potential to provide sexual